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Jeneen
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 posted on 1.7.2005 at 08:13 AM |
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Early Morning Fight Thread Guaranteed 50 Replies Before 5PM
Don't you just love the title of this thread 
Anyway, I was reading a woman's magazine last night that said if a man does not spend money on you he does not care for or really like you.I quickly
jumped on the phone and called my Grandmother and Father who both verified the above statement to indeed be true.
I later hit up a few female friends who swore up and down this was not true and proceeded to make all types of excuses as to why a man would never
spend money on a woman he claimed to like.
For the record, I believe the above statement is 100% true.I'm not buying that maybe he is broke story either.People spend money on things they care
about, be it themselves, their home, their children, their car...whatever.Broke or not, a man with any interest in you at all is gonna find a way to
Materialistically show you that he cares.
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Mr.3000
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![[*]](./images/reflections/default_icon.gif) posted on 1.7.2005 at 08:40 AM |
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Yeah, I agree. No need to throw good money away. And if it is just a sexually thing, the monies spend will be limited to just that. Where as If I
am interested in a woman, the is the limit. I will spend as much as I have to to win you over and keep your interest. And if she is not interested
in me I made still buy her the little thing(Lunch, remembering her Birthday, Christmas) to try and stoke the fires.
The Blues aint nothin but a good man feeling bad, thinking about the woman he once was with.
If you think education is expensive, imagine the cost of IGNORANCE
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UNNCALLED4
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MATERIALISTICLLY show who?? A prostitute? Money is a TOOL.. Black Americans general FAILURE to realize that is part of the reason for out RETARDED
economic and educational progress.
A people in NEED of economic independence should not be so obsessed with CONSUMERISM.
When I was dating my wife she was IMPRESSED by the fact that I was creative enough to have a GREAT time without spending piles of money. Now after 12
years of marriage money is no object.
If you base the value of a relationship on how much a man spend then you have been dehumanized by CONSUMERISM.
Anythings possible. Man in general is but a beast and comprehends little about the universe in which we live.
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Khalil-Maliq
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 10:09 AM |
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it's retarded yet true
If you're let free by the same people who enslaved you how do you know you're free?
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UNNCALLED4
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 10:18 AM |
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2 single and a divorcee think MATERIALISM is a fundimental building block of a relationship.
BWAAAAAAA HA HA HAAAAAA!!!
ROTFLMBAO!!!
Im am SURE there is more to come.
This forum may help solve the mystery of the dysfunctional Black American family unit.
Anythings possible. Man in general is but a beast and comprehends little about the universe in which we live.
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Lorenzo2002
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 10:47 AM |
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Hey I didnt spend a lot of money on my wife when we were dating back in High school ... hell we were both broke ... we would take walks in the park
....would spend time at each others place watching movies oplaying games just enjoying each other ... I have to agree with Uncalled4 and say that
money cant buy you love ... there is no way that you can have a true relationship if it is based on money .....and i will bwe with my wife 11 years in
March... so that pretty much disproves that off the bat ....
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UNNCALLED4
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 10:53 AM |
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Lorenzo,
This materistic depression is ONE of the reasons so many sister have trouble finding a proper mate and keep one as well.
Anythings possible. Man in general is but a beast and comprehends little about the universe in which we live.
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Jeneen
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 10:57 AM |
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I did not say the relationship was based on money, I simply said that if a man never spends money on you or buys you anything he does not care.Giving
people things is a fundamental way in which we show people we care.... this is a fact.When men want to impress women they generally do it with their
wallets.I.E taking her out, blah, blah, blah.I don't care how broke someone claims to be, if they care they will show it with their wallets...that is
what men do and most of you men here have done it at some point in time.Let's not attempt to ghettofy this thread and turn it into something it's
not.This is basic male/female relationship science.Men use money to attract women and women use sex to attract men.
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waterboxer
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 11:07 AM |
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I don't agree at all. Before my Marriage a Broad had to pay for my time. I was not about to waste time and put myself at risk by spending my money on
women or a woman for that matter.
Now that I have Wife, I have no problem spending money, My wife is worth it. She does too much to keep us together as a Fam. However, I don't and she
doesn't go overboard with it. For instance something costing 20Bucks is the same as spending 1000bucks. All that matters is it from her Husband and
it says I am thinking of you.
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BlakSheep
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 11:23 AM |
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I wwas gonna disagree....then thought about it.....I wont spend any cash, or put any effort out for, any oman that has not proven she is worthy and
would reciprocate in some way shape or form. Once I determine she has good intentions and is not a bottemless pit.....I will spend a little.....I wont
spend a penny if I dont care for her. This applies for relationships and female freinds alike. And if I find I am being taken advantage of....what
ever level of cash flow no matter how small, STOPS.
I dont like that this was in an article that many are reading becuase 90% of women are gonna misinterpret and think that becuase a dude throws cash at
her azz....he cares. This is just gonna feed materialism. This info is dangerous becuase, like religious ideas, many dont know how to use it
responsibly.
Men pay attention: One woman's trash, is rarely another woman's treasure, but in fact MOST women's trash. They all like the same
[Censored] regrdless of what they claim. Dont be fooled. ~Blak~
Karma is a biiitch that alotta people deserve to be married to.
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msclassy
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 11:23 AM |
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Well, if the person's there for you financially when you need them then I can agree with that. But, to just blow money on a person I would think that
in some cases the person may be trying to overcompensate for something that's lacking in the relationship.
"destined, determined, dreamer''
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Jeneen
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 11:26 AM |
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| Quote: | Originally posted by waterboxer
I don't agree at all. Before my Marriage a Broad had to pay for my time. I was not about to waste time and put myself at risk by spending my money on
women or a woman for that matter.
Now that I have Wife, I have no problem spending money, My wife is worth it. She does too much to keep us together as a Fam. However, I don't and she
doesn't go overboard with it. For instance something costing 20Bucks is the same as spending 1000bucks. All that matters is it from her Husband and
it says I am thinking of you. |
I am sure before you married your wife you showed for love for her with
some sort of trinket  whether it cost five dollars or five hundred is not
the point.The point is you displayed you affection for her with a gift of some sort... didn't you?
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Kandi1072
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 11:31 AM |
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I disagree. I believe if a man spends genuine quality time (not just visiting when he wants some booty) with a woman then he cares about her. Of
course money will be spent when the two go out to dinner, the movies, plays, etc.
When it comes to gifts, I only appreciate the random ones, not the Valentines/B-Day/X-mas crap everyone feels obligated to buy.
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 11:34 AM |
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My question is: "Why is it necessary for someone to spend money to demonstrate that they care for someone?" Personally speaking, I am turned off by
a woman who constantly says that I "should take her out to dinner, I should buy her this, I should buy her that". I establish up front, whoever
suggests going somewhere pays for it. If how much I spend on a woman determines how much I care for her, then I get another woman!
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BlakSheep
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| posted on 1.7.2005 at 11:39 AM |
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| Quote: | Originally posted by GCJ630
If how much I spend on a woman determines how much I care for her, then I get another woman! |
Great statement....you are helping me refine mine.
If I am spending anything....she is someone I care about...but that is not the indicator that I do care....it is one of the extras a woman gets when I
care. A relationship based on money wont happen with me. 
Men pay attention: One woman's trash, is rarely another woman's treasure, but in fact MOST women's trash. They all like the same
[Censored] regrdless of what they claim. Dont be fooled. ~Blak~
Karma is a biiitch that alotta people deserve to be married to.
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